Seeing as this is the first wedding I've ever planned or really been involved in, I cannot call my self an expert. However, I've noticed a trend in wedding planning literature: it's all aimed at the girl. This isn't bad, they do a lot of the work and are probably more interested in the details of planning a wedding than most guys. However, I know a lot of guys
who would like to be strongly involved in wedding planning. Here are my thoughts and experiences so far on good steps to take as a guy to be involved in wedding planning.
Be honest with her about styles and choices.
If you and your fiancee know each other very well at all, she will probably know when you are being dishonest or even just holding back your real opinion about colors, table clothes, and food. whe she asks, "Do you like these colors," give her your honest perspective in a nice way.
Take charge of the male role.
There are parts of a wedding that make the most sense for the guy to take care of. Obviously this wil change between couples, for us it has generally been:
*Organizing premarital counseling
*Planning the honeymoon
*Arranging for a hotel for the wedding night
*Catering
Again, these will change per couple. A good idea is to ask your fiancee what she would want you to take care of. It can be a huge stress reliever for both of you to talk openly about what each of you are going to plan regarding the wedding.
Go with your fiancee to meetings.
Kacie and I have been trying to go to meetings with florists and photographers together, even if it isn't something I would care too much about. She really appreciates me being along and listening to her thoughts on the subject.
Be positive.
Wedding planning is stressful, expensive, and time consuming. It's easy to get short with each other when one person or the other wants to spend more money on something than the other thinks is necessary. Do your best to make positive remarks. Comment on the parts of wedding planning you've really enjoyed, talk about parts of the ceremony you are looking forward to. If you manage to picture something in your mind, tell her. She will appreciate knowing that you are thinking about it too.
who would like to be strongly involved in wedding planning. Here are my thoughts and experiences so far on good steps to take as a guy to be involved in wedding planning.
Be honest with her about styles and choices.
If you and your fiancee know each other very well at all, she will probably know when you are being dishonest or even just holding back your real opinion about colors, table clothes, and food. whe she asks, "Do you like these colors," give her your honest perspective in a nice way.
Take charge of the male role.
There are parts of a wedding that make the most sense for the guy to take care of. Obviously this wil change between couples, for us it has generally been:
*Organizing premarital counseling
*Planning the honeymoon
*Arranging for a hotel for the wedding night
*Catering
Again, these will change per couple. A good idea is to ask your fiancee what she would want you to take care of. It can be a huge stress reliever for both of you to talk openly about what each of you are going to plan regarding the wedding.
Go with your fiancee to meetings.
Kacie and I have been trying to go to meetings with florists and photographers together, even if it isn't something I would care too much about. She really appreciates me being along and listening to her thoughts on the subject.
Be positive.
Wedding planning is stressful, expensive, and time consuming. It's easy to get short with each other when one person or the other wants to spend more money on something than the other thinks is necessary. Do your best to make positive remarks. Comment on the parts of wedding planning you've really enjoyed, talk about parts of the ceremony you are looking forward to. If you manage to picture something in your mind, tell her. She will appreciate knowing that you are thinking about it too.
Wise words. :)
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