Weddings are confusing, crazy, and (for men) difficult to predict. For most of the relationship, you are in charge of the majority of the planning (asking the girl out, date, and proposal if you're traditional on all of the above). When wedding planning starts, suddenly you are out of your element. It's like taking a hawk, a bird designed to hunt in the air, and giving it a submarine to pilot.
It doesn't know what it is doing and it will probably open a hatch under water and drown.
It doesn't know what it is doing and it will probably open a hatch under water and drown.
The wedding planning part is a crazy ride so sit back and enjoy it. Here's a key tip:
When you're running through a wedding store (There are actual wedding stores, if you don't know. Stores filled with decorations meant to be used by people once in their lifetime. And they're expensive because you can't find this stuff in hobby lobby or anywhere else. They have a corner of the market, guys. Prepare to sacrifice to the Wedding Store gods to get into that corner) and you're bored or frustrated (IE when thoughts like, "All of these center pieces look the same!" or "How is a jar worth $15?" or even, "I can't tell the difference between those two tux colors!") don't keep trying to understand the things you are looking at or try to rationalize why you need them.
It's out of your league, beyond your mindset. Instead of looking at merchandise, watch your girl at work. Watch her do her thing. When she gasps and says, "That is the most beautiful table cloth I've ever seen!" look at her face and expression to share her emotion instead of jumping to the price tag. Appreciate the effort she's going through to make the decorations awesome. (You may say "no" to the table cloth later if it really is too expensive, just saying).
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